It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: A Review
I'm taking a page out of Cori's blog and posting a book review.
Nothing sucks as much as breaking up with someone. Well, OK, maybe death, famine, natural disasters, murder, and other atrocities are a whole lot worse. But in the day to day of things that occur often and that suck, getting dumped is right up there.
Even the Dating Diva, as fabulous as she is, gets her heart broken from time to time. And one such time, a couple of years ago, this book was a ginormous help. I had just been dumped (by email...an email he sent me while I was at work...) by a guy I had been dating a little over a month. We will call him Harsh. It hadn't been long, but I fell for this guy head over heels, and I don't think I realized how fast I was falling until I came crashing down. Since that day there's been a lot of back and forth between me and this guy and I can't say with certainty that I've officially shaken him off. Since moving back to Boston I've seen him once, and it was torture.
Anyway, because of all the yo-yo'ing with Harsh, I've had to read this book more than once. And every time, it helps. If only I would follow the advice a little more closely! It's the perfect blend of funny, confidence boosting, and tough love, which is just what one needs after a bad break up. It's a light read (by the same people who wrote "He's Just Not That Into You"), which is also a plus in my opinion. Who wants to read a tragic, serious, sad story after a getting her heart broken? Well, OK, I do, because I welcome the opportunity to bawl my eyes out when I'm going through that sort of a phase. But this book will make you laugh, which is ultimately better therapy anyway.
Anyone, whether the dumper or the dumpee, male or female, young or old, catholic or protestant, will find this book helpful after a breakup. I think it would be more helpful if I carried the book around with me at all times, to remind me not to get sucked into the ex boyfriend vortex as I so often do.
Nothing sucks as much as breaking up with someone. Well, OK, maybe death, famine, natural disasters, murder, and other atrocities are a whole lot worse. But in the day to day of things that occur often and that suck, getting dumped is right up there.
Even the Dating Diva, as fabulous as she is, gets her heart broken from time to time. And one such time, a couple of years ago, this book was a ginormous help. I had just been dumped (by email...an email he sent me while I was at work...) by a guy I had been dating a little over a month. We will call him Harsh. It hadn't been long, but I fell for this guy head over heels, and I don't think I realized how fast I was falling until I came crashing down. Since that day there's been a lot of back and forth between me and this guy and I can't say with certainty that I've officially shaken him off. Since moving back to Boston I've seen him once, and it was torture.
Anyway, because of all the yo-yo'ing with Harsh, I've had to read this book more than once. And every time, it helps. If only I would follow the advice a little more closely! It's the perfect blend of funny, confidence boosting, and tough love, which is just what one needs after a bad break up. It's a light read (by the same people who wrote "He's Just Not That Into You"), which is also a plus in my opinion. Who wants to read a tragic, serious, sad story after a getting her heart broken? Well, OK, I do, because I welcome the opportunity to bawl my eyes out when I'm going through that sort of a phase. But this book will make you laugh, which is ultimately better therapy anyway.
Anyone, whether the dumper or the dumpee, male or female, young or old, catholic or protestant, will find this book helpful after a breakup. I think it would be more helpful if I carried the book around with me at all times, to remind me not to get sucked into the ex boyfriend vortex as I so often do.
Comments
I've never even heard of that book. "Love Tactics" is another really good break up book... except it gives a pretty good step by step on how to get your ex back... I read it last year and applied quite a few of the tactics learned while reading and found it to be quite helpful.
for the record, I did get that person back.
Pondy, that is kind of cool that the advice worked. Do you think it was worth it, or do you agree that it's called a breakup because it's broken? (Oh, puns :)
I think people break up because their relationship is broken, what I disagree with is the idea that what's broken must forever stay broken. People split up, take responsibility for their actions, change their behaviours, and get back together all the time... I think if two people really love eachother, anything is possible. What you're willing to put into something is exactly what you're going to get out of it.
I also don't disagree that post-breakup moral support "You can get right back on that horse" sort of pep-talk self-esteem booster is not completely a must (a gallon of ice cream one cheese pizza and a bag of cool ranch doritos), but it's not the only way to go. I'm not, how you would say it, a person who reads for fun so I'm definitely not going to be the person who reads to take her mind off of a break up. Never underestimate the old fashioned use of friends, family, and super loud man-hater music sang/screamed at the top of your lungs.
For the record, "Love Tactics" very much so gave a healthy dose of reality and did warn against manipulation and other tactics of a deceitful nature. It emphasizes friendship, not being needy, and self-reflection. I did find its advice useful and a lot of its practices to be useful in other areas where relationships could be complicated in life. (ie, work, roommates, family, etc). I do think it was worth it.
It also helped to read about people who had some crazy stories about breakups gone from bad to worse...the whole "well at least I am not stalking him right now" thought really gave me a good feeling inside!