Sometimes You Feel Like a Diva, Sometimes You Don't

Recently one of my readers commented on the fact that while my posts are incredibly funny and interesting (ahem, why thank you), they are also rather infrequent. It seemed like less of a criticism and more a statement of fact, and I would have to agree with this reader. I really don't keep my blog updated as often as my loyal fan base would probably like I'm sure.

You see, some people keep blogs that are about their day-to-day lives, and somehow they manage to keep these blogs incredibly interesting. I don't think I could do that. "Today I went to work, then came home and ate a pint of ice cream for dinner" is really not the stuff blogging legends are made of.

I get around this by giving my blog a theme. When I was in France I kept a blog about my adventures abroad and my observations of the French people and their odd, quirky ways. And now that I am a dating diva, I keep a dating blog. My posts are always focused on men, dating, or the world of romance in general, usually with a focus on the online dating phenomenon.

The problem is, what this all means is that there will be periods of time when the blog goes un-posted because you see, I don't date every day. I'm sorry to disillusion you all, as I'm sure you all have ideas about my fabulous life wherein I see a different man every night, but the truth is that I am just your average gal who has to do laundry on Sundays and work late sometimes. There are other things to do besides make out with your cute neighbor, and unfortunately sometimes annoying chores like bill paying and cat feeding take precedent.

The truth is that life is all about balance, and there are times when I find it hard to find mine. For awhile there, I wanted to not focus on dating because I felt like I needed to focus on myself. What I've realized though, is that life doesn't stop while you sit down to make your to-do list. I can't put my life on hold while I take my time figuring out how I'm going to lose the weight, pay down the debt, find a better job, or figure out a way to get myself focused on my other writing projects. On the other hand, when I meet someone I tend to let myself get wrapped up in the excitement of meeting someone new, and I tend to let those other important things in my life slide a little bit.

I've never thought of dating as an all-or-nothing kind of thing, but I do realize the need to find a good equilibrium. Meeting people and socializing with them should be part of a well-rounded lifestyle and not something to either avoid or obsess over--after all, dating is good for the mind, soul, and, ahem, body.