The Perfect Antidote

The perfect antidote to a bad date is one of the following:

1. Retail therapy (i.e., new clothes)
2. A night with your girlfriends
3. A good date with someone else.

Woohoo, three out of three all in one weekend!

I have been waiting to meet D, a computer engineer (Indian) for a few weeks now. We've hit it off over chat and phone and email, but you just never know until you meet up with someone. Finally our schedules coordinated and we had our first date.

What a gentleman!!! He picked me up and held the door open for me. He took me to a really nice (not cheap) restaurant. He paid. He took me out for drinks and complimented me on my outfit and held my hand. We talked and laughed. Then he paid.

We then took a walk along the Charles River and he held my hand some more and told me what a great time he had. He asked if he could kiss me (normally I would rather the guy just press me up against the doorway and go for it, but there was something sweet about his hesitation. Besides we were by a river and there was no door to be pinned against) His kiss was as sweet as he was, and I mean, how romantic to have a first kiss as you are taking a stroll along the riverside! I swooned a little.

He drove me home and he walked me to my door. He kissed me again and said we should make plans again soon. He would talk to me tomorrow.

Now, see this Nigergia guy? This is how it's DONE!

In other news I bought some new clothes so I was feeling pretty darn cute tonight. And tomorrow I get a good old fashioned Sex and the City watching gab fest with some girlfriends. Dating Diva is having a good weekend!

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Workaholic Hostess
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Yay! The non-paying Nigerian guy was not right. If you have to ask yourself if a guy's actions were appropriate or not, then the answer is that they weren't. I asked all my guy friends about the paying thing since your last post, and the consensus is that it's what the guy has to do. Social rules say so. And whenever I've been quick to open my wallet, I've always been stuck with professional leeches.
Alixito
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I've been out of the dating game for a long time and I'm not sure who is suppose to pay... I guess the guys that I've been with before all made less money than me and I was always the one paying. So are we suppose to offer to pay at all as a gesture or is act of offering to pay offensive to guys?

But YAYE for a fabulous date with a gentleman! :)

Steve Betz
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That sounds like a great date -- good for him for striking that right balance that can be tough first time out!
StupidCupid
I know, I usually do the "good faith reach" for my wallet, and on a first date it is just sweet if the guy is all "no no, don't be silly". after that, of course the guy should not ALWAYS pay, that's silly. I guess there's just something about the romanctic ideal I have of a first date. Guy #1 this week killed any chance of romance, while Guy #2 lived up to the challenge.

Saw your other comment - lol! :-) Yeah, not to mention that tacos and a movie kind of pale in comparison at this point to my date this weekend...
StupidCupid
Thanks Hostess! I'm glad my blog is prompting discussion across gender lines!

"Whenever I've been quick to open my wallet, I've always been stuck with professional leeches".

Love it. Mind if I steal this line and needlepoint it on a pillow or something?
StupidCupid
It was a great date, I was really proud of him (though I barely know him) for doing it so well! I know it must be tough for guys, and usually as long as it's clear there's effort being put in the date, the results are really inconsequential. Even if everything goes wrong, you can tell when someone is trying to be really sweet and nice.
Workaholic Hostess
Needlepoint away! It's totally the truth.
beautifuldisaster
Wow, this guy sounds like potential keeper material.

As far as the paying thing, I do the same as you. I'll reach for my wallet and if the guy allows me to pay, that becomes an instant deal breaker for me. I won't go out with him again. Men who don't pay don't realize that they are in the process of swooning you and putting their best foot forward. If they don't plan on paying, they shouldn't have asked a girl out. I realize some guys probably feel they should have to pay for a bad date and I guess if they don't pay they DO think it was a bad date and want ti over with. Still, a man earns swoon points with me if he stops me when I reach for my wallet.


I also think its sweet when a guy asks to kiss you. Much luck and look forward to hearing about future dates with him.

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